Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

This month, the theme is “mothers”, in honour of Mothers Day and women everywhere, who may or may not be birth mothers of children, but are birth mothers of ideas, creativity, businesses, beautiful homes, love and peace.
So, the enchantments this month are about honouring you as a woman, about honouring mothers, about honouring the Divine Feminine in all of us and about honouring Mother Earth.

I was out for my walk yesterday, thinking and reflecting on my mothers.  I lost my mom to breast cancer when she was 74 and I was 39 and I lost my mother-in-law to lung cancer even earlier.  I treasure my memories of both these dear women and know that with their passing I feel very much that the role of “matriarch” has passed on to me, as the mom of three daughters.  It feels like a significant role.

The mother-daughter dynamic is said to be one of the most powerful in nature and I add that, the mother-daughter relationship (both in the material world and metaphorically) would then be one of the most “pregnant with potential” for personal growth and transformation as well.

The self-care enchantments for this week are about you and your mom!

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    Ponder your relationship with your mom and write down 3 wonderful things about it and share this with your mom.  Even if she has passed on, you can send her a verbal letter and talk to her.  If this is difficult for you, ask yourself what is getting in the way?
2.    Honour yourself as a woman, as a creator, as a spark of the Divine Feminine.
3.    On Mother’s Day, Sunday, May 11th, pick an action that feels representative to you of total honouring  and self-care and “give it to yourself”.  You may choose to take the whole day off from any kind of domestic duties, spend the day in nature, make a vision board, or schedule a spa day.  The wonderful part is, you get to choose.

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“Freedom is a bigger game than power.  Power is about what you can control.  Freedom is about what you can unleash” - Harriet Rubin

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

Continuing on the theme of mindfulness, this week, I want you to cast your attention and awareness to the concept of connecting with a body-centered, “felt” experience of your own personal centerpoint, that place deep inside you where you feel the most you, where when you take your self there in your thoughts, there is peacefulness, calmness and a sense of the “essence of you”.

I remember one of the most powerful experiences that I have had of this.  It was a few summers ago and we were on our sailing holiday with some very good friends and had our boats rafted together.  My husband, all the kids and friends had gone to shore and I was alone on the boat.  We were anchored in a serene, quiet, cove and it was a glorious sunny summer morning.  I had a good cup of java, was sitting on the bow of the boat writing in my journal and I remember feeling deeply that “this is me, I feel “me” deep inside, everything is right with my world, I feel the most “me” I have ever felt.  Later, as I was de-constructing the experience, I realized that I had given myself awareness and attention; that I was totally in the present moment and that I was in a state of mindfulness and being in nature, in almost a state of natural grace.  I had connected with my centerpoint.  Now, when things get crazy and chaotic (sometimes that feels like it is… always in a household with three teenage and older daughters, a dog, 2 cats a turtle and my husband and I), I remember that morning on the boat.  With that memory, comes a body-centered felt remembrance and I melt into my center point and feel peace and calmness wash over me.

So, the self-care enchantments for this week are about you finding that inrageous place that is your personal centerpoint, your own “shelter from the storm”.

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    Use the following affirmation to start: “I center my mind in stillness, I center my body in the breath, I center my heart in love and I find myself centered in the cosmos” (adapted from the 13 Moon Natural Time calendar).
2.    Close your eyes, go inside and think of a time that you felt “the most you”.  Sink into this feeling and “take yourself back there in your mind”.  Smell the smells, hear the sounds, feel the textures, breathe in the experience, feel the feelings.  Scan you body to see how your body feels and “lock in” this experience, give it a name or… use the words, essence, centerpoint, still point.  Anchor in the feelings of peacefulness, stillness and serenity.  Bring exquisite mindfulness to this exercise.
3.    Practice this daily and attend to your responses!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  - Anais Nin

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

The self care discussions of the past few weeks have been kind of “heady”, requiring self-inquiry and reflection.  Let’s change things up abit and for this week, sink into body centered practices and the concept of mindfulness.

Jon Kabat – Zinn in his book, “Coming To Our Senses: Healing Ourselves And The World Through Mindfulness” calls “mindfulness” a particular kind of awareness, he says “Mindfulness is the final common pathway of what makes us human, our capacity for awareness and for self-knowing.  Mindfulness is cultivated by paying attention, and, as we shall see, this paying attention is developed and refined through a practice know as mindfulness meditation’.  I add that mindfulness is about using all of you, all your senses and all of your body, to put your full self into living your life!

So, the self-care enchantments for this week are about paying attention to yourself, your life and your body and about deepeing your awareness and mindfulness.

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    For this week, every morning before getting out of bed, ask yourself, “how does my body feel, where do I feel tight, or tense or relaxed and melted”.
2.    Pick a food that you enjoy, something like a fresh strawberry, cool firm grape or a delicious bowl of homemade soup.  Eat this food with mindfulness, care and attention, savouring every mouthful, fully experiencing all the flavours, textures and smells.  Draw out the eating of this food, make it slow and sensual; spend at least 5 minutes eating this one food!  Do you feel satiated?
3.    Think of the areas or times in your life that you are “mindless” not “mindful”.  How does mindlessness serve you and not serve you?

If you feel drawn to this, write about your experiences with mindfulness this week.  You may wish to start a mindfulness journal or a mindfulness ritual.  Enjoy the fullness of you!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  - Anais Nin

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Week

About 10 years ago, before I started my coaching training but when I knew that my life purpose was to support women in their personal growth, I offered workshops and seminars that were all about empowering women and making them feel good, this in turn made me feel good!  As a result of further life experience, masterful coach training and lots of coaching experience I have come to understand that “feeling good” is only part of the equation.  Here in the Western world, we are very accustomed to the idea that life should be good and is all about the pursuit of happiness.  I believe that we are missing a whole range of experiences and actually setting ourselves up for a lot of frustration if we don’t also acknowledge and embrace the counter point, which is that chaos, upsets, negative emotions, crises, traumas and breakdowns can be and often are the catalysts for big personal and soul growth.  As Joseph Campbell writes about “the hero’s journey”, chaos and times of crisis can be the beginning, the whispering of “the call the adventure”.

So, your sacred self care enchantments for this week are about welcoming chaos, dissonance and upsets and are adapted from the “!3 Moon, Natural Time Calendar” for Spectral Tone 11.

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    “Let go; let yourself be absorbed by life itself”.  Practice living in the moment and for this week, suspend planning, goal setting and striving and simply float on your inner tube down the “river of life”
And/or
2.    “Un-do, break down, mix it up”.  Do something totally uncharacteristic this week!
3.    “Expect breakthroughs to look like breakdowns”!  Think of a time in your life that felt like a “breakdown” and re-write the experience noting all the positive changes and goodness that resulted.  Expect major life transformations to show up as breakdowns and rather than denying or pushing away the negativity, pain and fear, welcome it and use it as a gateway or portal to soul growth and life transformation!

Check in for the next POW Game podcast (#8) http://www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com/thepowgame.htm , which is all about welcoming chaos.

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  - Anais Nin

Celebrate and Tap Into the Collective Energy of International Women’s Day, March 8th!

Inrageous/Outrageous Self-Care Enchantments for This Special Week

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia:

“International Women’s Day (IWD) is marked on March 8 every year. It is a major day of global celebration for the economic, political and social achievements of women.

Started as a political event, the holiday blended in the culture of many countries (primarily Russia and the countries of former Soviet bloc).
In some celebrations, the day lost its political flavour, and became simply an occasion for men to express their love to the women around them in a way somewhat similar to Mother’s Day and St Valentine’s Day mixed together. In others, however, the political and human rights theme as designated by the United Nations runs strong, and political and social awareness of the struggles of women worldwide are brought out and examined in a hopeful manner.”

So, your sacred self care enchantments for this week are all about honouring you as a woman!

Self Care Enchantments for the week:

1.    “Milepost” your life by doing a life timeline.  This is a simple exercise that brings awareness to where you have been and where you want to go. It is like a celebration of you. Just draw a straight line on a piece of paper and put an X in the middle of the line.  To the left of the line is your past.  Above the line note the events that were significant to you from a positive perspective and below the line, note the events that challenged you and helped you grow as a person.  You might include a significant birthday, death of a parent etc.Now, to the right of the X, do some dreaming and construct your vision of the rest of your life, using the same process.  You can enhance this exercise even more by adding photos and colour to it.
2.    Today, sit down and write out 21 unique qualities that make you an amazing woman.
3.    Call one of your special friends today and tell her how much sheyou’re your friendship means to you!

namaste,

Zoey

Zoey Ryan
coach . catalyst . shakti sage
life & business coach for women
“Coaching for your heart & soul”
www.positivelyoutrageouswomen.com
www.entrepreneurialsuperstars.com
604-323-3700

“I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles”  - Anais Nin